On Mind Reading

Mind Reading Expectations can be toxic to your relationship. Find out how you can hack your fairytale and drop the MRE's.

Mind Reading Expectations can be toxic to your relationship. Find out how you can hack your fairytale and drop the MRE’s.

Mind Reading, Expectations, Emotional Intelligence, Valentine’s Day

Given that I don’t watch much television (“any” turned into “much” once I started watching “Downton Abby”), I find watching commercials a rare event in my life. Other than the carefully crafted and clever Super Bowl commercials, I find myself doing a lot to avoid advertisements selling me the latest and greatest.

I especially find Valentine’s Day advertisements annoying. Why? Because many of them focus on just a handful of clichéd themes surrounding the nature of romance. Usually, there is  an engendered story: man needs to buy his wife a gift to show that he loves her, and he feels pressured to pick just the right thing without being told what might make her happy. Get it right, and she’s happy and over the moon! Get it wrong, and he’s in the doghouse for days to come. 

What are we really seeing here? It’s the management of expectations, specifically around that of mind reading, called Mind Reading Expectations, or MRE. The man is supposed to know what the woman wants without her having to tell him, a sort of, “Where’s the fun in that?” mixed with, “He should know me by now.”

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    Day Off

    Time out, day off, inspiration

    What would you do with a chosen day off? 

    What do you choose to be when you find yourself with  unclaimed time on your paws?  Loomi demos my favorite choice: rest and meditate! (photo credit: Imei's iPhone5s)

    What do you choose to be when you find yourself with unclaimed time on your paws? Loomi demos my favorite choice: rest and meditate! (photo credit: Imei’s iPhone5s)

    The SDC office is closed for Feb 4 2015. Originally, I had made a decision to cancel all scheduled appointments for February 4th to make room for the possibility of a Seahawks celebration, but it appears there is no planned public event.

    A re-pete of last year’s champion homecoming brought about 700,000 parade watchers and fans flooding into Pioneer Square and SoDo, making it very difficult for people to get in and out of the area. Our sealed windows were no match for Beastmode fans, and while the crowd was joyous, it wasn’t something I felt my clients wanted on the day they come to work on challenging aspects of life. I joined in the celebration and had a great time.

    Instead of waiting until the last minute to make a decision this year, I thought it would be a good time to practice what it is I teach: learning to be in the moment, take a breath, and see what “is”.

    While I have plenty of things on my “to-do” list, this isn’t what my day off is about. Neither would I want a long to-do list for the clients whose appointments were moved to another day. What will we do with an extra hour is really more of a question of what will we choose to BE with an extra hour (or in my case, with an extra 7-8 hours)?

    And with any luck, my day out of the office might very well include a shiatsu massage. I always manage to awaken a clever thought after the body is flushed of any circulation blocks or energy stagnation. I like who I “be” when everything in the body is feeling good!

    And, as before, I still love the Seahawks! It was a great game, with a risky play that worked in the Patriot’s favor to bring them the win.

    We’ll be back!

     

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      Go Seahawks!

      We interrupt our usual flow of informative, educational, entertaining, and enlightening blog posts to bring you this simple message:

      GO SEAHAWKS!

      Just a little fun with the Superbowl! Note the deflated football. Cake by Midori Bakery.

      Just a little fun with the Superbowl! Note the deflated football. Cake by Midori Bakery, 2015.

      From 2014, last year's Seahawks cake from Midori Bakery (from the website).

      From 2014, last year’s Seahawks cake from Midori Bakery (from the website).  Go Seahawks! Re-pete!

      Pardon our scratchy throats from screaming our heads off on Sunday during the Superbowl. I (Imei) freely admit I scream like a girl. Which is Seattle Speak for #beastmode.

       

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