Exposure Therapy: A Personal Experience with Fear

Exposure Therapy | Self Help | Phobias | Fear

Woman reaching out with right hand while swimming under the surface of a pool.
Do you have a phobia that you have wondered if you can do without? Read about my experience with Exposure Therapy, and consider whether a self-guided plan or a structured and mediated plan could help you. Photo by Imei Hsu (2018).

There is a type of phone call I receive at least a half dozen or more times a year. It sounds something like this:

Caller: Hi, I’m calling about a problem I have, and wondering if you do this.”

Me: Sure, what is the problem?

Caller: Well, I feel kind of embarrassed to say this, but I am afraid of [insert fear]. I don’t even know what can be done about it.

Me: OK, thank you for sharing what you are afraid of. Up to now, what have you done to address your fear of [insert fear] so far?

Caller: Mostly, I just try to avoid it.

Me: OK, how’s that working for you?

Caller: [laughing] Obviously not too well if I’m calling you!

Me: Fair enough!

Caller: So, do you offer any help for this? Like, do you do some kind of desensitizing program?

Me: Do you mean, Exposure Therapy?

Caller: Yes.

Me: That depends on the type of response and the type of phobia.

After we get to that last sentence, everything afterwards is dependent on the type of phobia and the individual’s response to that phobia; everything else is generalized information that isn’t specific enough to be helpful. Over the course of my counseling practice, I’ve been able to help individuals confront specific phobias by creating in vivo and systematic desensitization scenarios, and watched phobic reactions decrease so that the former terror associated with those situations turns into a whisper.

In other words, Exposure Therapy often works because I apply it to those who have the highest chances of responding well to it, and I don’t recommend it for those who have a low chance of a extinguishing that fear response using Exposure Therapy alone.

To give you an idea of what Exposure Therapy is like, and why guided Exposure Therapy might be of help to you if you have a phobia that you’d like to seek treatment for, read on for my personal experiences with Exposure Therapy.

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The Key to Getting Stuff Done

The Key to Getting Stuff Done

Productivity | Time Management | Prioritizing | Life Coaching

Ever wonder how people manage to get stuff done? Read about two skills that will help you learn what others know about time management and action. Photo by Pixabay, no attribution required for use. 

Do you ever wonder how people manage to get stuff done? They have the same 24 hours to work with. Do they just forego sleep? Do they hire people to take care of tasks they don’t have time to do?  Do they know something you don’t?

After working as a counselor for nearly 18 years, I can tell you by observation that the people I’ve worked with who successfully got things done didn’t forego sleep, except in rare occasions where it was unavoidable. They also didn’t have a personal assistant working for them. Some were the unpaid assistants to a busy or physically-challenged partner. Most would not describe their lives as charmed nor ideal.

But they did experientially know something that maybe you do not know. They all had at least two things in common. And if you  want to know the key to getting stuff done in your life, to accomplishing tasks and staying on top of “life stuff” before the avoidance of those things comes back to bite you, read on.

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Happy New Year 2018

New Year 2018 | motivation| goals

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Want to see personal change in your life? Tired of the same old, same old, complaining about things you never did? The counseling process can help with personal insight about how you tick, where you get in your own way, and how you can unlock the door to pursuing your own passions and dreams. Photo from Pixabay, no attribution required.

Once again, it’s a new year.

Once again, you might find yourself among those who wish to use the start of a new year to institute a change. Maybe you want to start a new habit, learn to eat better, drink less or abstain from alcohol, drop some weight, gain some muscle, strengthen a relationship, or end a toxic one.

You look back at the previous year, and wonder, “Why couldn’t I have accomplished this last year?”

I hear you. I understand the hunger for change. I also understand that it is easier to talk about change than it is to actually change.

If you came by this counseling website in hopes of starting counseling because you would like to work on change, I’d like to be of help. This is a simple post.

I believe that with minimal motivation or inspiration (the why behind the change you want to see in your personal life), the element you need is to take an action regarding the what and the how.  And if you are to have half a chance at successfully reaching a reasonable goal of change, you need to get going on a plan.

Let me repeat this simple thought. Once you understand the why, you really need to take ACTION. If you don’t, you will be asking the same question about why you did not see change in 2018 when 2019 rolls around. And that is an icky feeling, like finding an old piece of gum stuck to the bottom of your favorite pair of boots, when you could have removed it a long time ago.

One of the things I love about counseling is that a certain amount of coaching is baked into the process. While it always begins with understanding your past and how it plays out in the present, it doesn’t have to stop there.  You can design a plan of action around your counseling insights, and work towards change in measurable steps.

If you have a hunger for personal change, I’d love to discuss with you how counseling can help.  My counseling practice has transitioned to all online telemental health  and private coaching, accessible through a HIPPA compatible platform.

Happy New Year,

imei