The longer you live, the more trips around the sun. The more trips around the sun, the more opportunities for trying new things, taking risks, and entering what I am calling The Bonus Round.
In 2016, we certainly saw a long march of artists and entertainers give their final curtain calls. This is really no different than other years — death is a natural occurrence! — but what shocked me more is how relatively young age of some of those artists. George Michael was only 53; Carrie Fischer, a mere 60 years old.
So at the beginning of 2017, I’m seeking something not quite akin to New Year’s resolutions. It’s more like New Year’s shake ups, an announcement of doing things a bit differently in order to experience more.
During the last weekend of August, Mother Nature clearly let people in the Seattle area know that it is now Fall weather season! We had a windstorm with rain that knocked down trees, took out power, and claimed the lives of two people. It was quite a contrast to the unusually hot and dry weather we have had during the summer.
The Seattle area usually receives a bit of a more gentle nudge with the change in seasons as we near September — the morning air has a crispness to it, the evening light fades earlier, and Starbuck’s advertises its Pumpkin Spice Lattes in October (ha ha). Not this year! As I packed up my camping tent at 6 am in the middle of a downpour, I was laughing. A 50% chance of rain really means, “Yep, it’s gonna rain!” I could feel it in the air. Fall has arrived.
I can feel a lot of other things in the air too. The beginning of Fall, with the obvious signs of a change of season, is a fun-tastic time to assess how things are working or not working for you. As I was reading Tara Gentile’s Quiet Power Strategy on my solar-panel powered Kindle reader, the author quoted another author who is oft asking her clients something I have asked my clients each time they encounter a “stuck point” while using the same tactics, strategies, and mainstream solutions they have always used:
How’s that working for you?
When you hear yourself respond to this question with, “Not very well,” perhaps you are ready to change how you are looking at the challenge, problem, or frustration that you are currently facing. Why continue to throw the same solutions at the same problem, expecting a different result?
You are the one who knows when something isn’t working. Stop. Just stop. And then, clear your mind.
One of the ways I clear my head is to go for a trail run. There is something about being in nature, focusing on the technical trail with its rocks, roots, and shifting ground, and a higher level of exertion that makes me look at things differently after I’ve completed my run. I’m panting like a dog, my legs get covered with dirt, all I can hear is my breath and the sound of my soft footfalls on the ground.
The open trail, like the one pictured above, narrows into a single-track that requires my complete attention for the next couple of hours. Later, when I’m showered and dressed for the day, I find that my mind can wander back to the complex situations of my clients, as well as my own personal, professional, and creative challenges. I have then gained an ability to see the problems from multiple directions and pathways, mindfully aware of suspending judgment and setting aside fear.
Are you ready for Fall? Are you ready to go beyond your answers when you discover things aren’t working the way you had hoped or envisioned for yourself? Would you like to try another pathway to explore the possibility of a different outcome than the one you have come to expect?
At SDC, we welcome you to Fall, and we welcome you to explore the pathways you will discover through counseling with one of us. While you don’t need to become avid trail or road runners like we are, we recognize that there are many tools that help the mind and heart to enter a place of self-discovery, courage, grief, growth, and emotional/social intelligence.
In a few days, you’ll see my next post about the subject of ghosting [Edit: something came up and I will be delaying that post to make room for a more emergent topic]. My Fall challenge involves sharing with you about many difficult topics, such as death and dying (and elder care), ghosting, surviving a difficult breakup, handling unpleasant and painful memories, as well as complex skills many of us need to develop to thrive in the 21st century, such as pathways to building your Emotional Intelligence, and recovering from with workplace trauma.
All I know is this: to write about these things with any amount of vulnerability, candor, and thoughtfulness requires plenty of trail running!
health, hydration, fluids, summer, hot weather tips
by B. Imei Hsu
Unless you’ve been hiding in a cool basement underground, you have probably noticed that parts of the U.S. are experiencing a heatwave. In the Puget Sound region where Seattle Direct Counseling is located, we’ve been hitting temperatures in the high 80’s and low 90’s. My fitness club has been filled with people running indoors in order to get their miles in without wilting, as many of us are not accustomed to exercising in weather that starts in the 70’s in the early morning and keeps climbing. We’re more used of jumping on a plane to Maui and laying in a hammock with a good book while a cool breeze passes by!
Yet every year, I see people taking actions in contradiction to the increased need to hydrate properly in warm weather. Sure, they might move from a latte to an iced latte, but there is a lack of connection with exactly what goes on when the mercury rises and you feel hot. I thought I’d give our readers a quick reminder on drinking for your health the smart way.*